Sometimes you just want to express your love to someone without saying I love you. We say I love you to our significant others a lot of times in a day. As a result, the words alone may start to feel like they are not enough in expressing how we truly feel about our partners. After being in a relationship for a while the fire may starts to die down and the butterfly in the stomach feeling may start to fizzle. Maintaining a healthy and passionate relationship requires consistency and hard work. Here are special ways to help you keep the love and passion in your relationship going.
Gifts
Gift giving is a great way to express your love. It’s a way of showing your partner that you were thinking of them. Besides getting them gifts on special occasions like their birthday, your anniversary or Christmas, anytime gifts are always welcome. It doesn’t have to be something big or something that will break the bank. It’s the thought that counts. I love it when my husband brings me chocolates whenever he goes out for shopping. It’s a small and simple gesture but it really shows me that he thought of me when he was away. So find random opportunities to buy or make a gift for your partner to show you love them.
Spending time
Sometimes life gets so busy. We need to work to earn a living, taking care of the household and many other things occupy our day. If we are not careful hours can turn into days and days into weeks without really spending some time with our partners. This can create emotional distance; in the end, love fades and you drift apart. Then you start wondering how you suddenly became like strangers. It is always a good idea to make time in your day to be with your partner. Making time for your partner shows them that you care. Even if it’s for a short time it’s still appreciated. If you can’t spontaneously make time in your day then schedule it. By putting it down on your to do list or calendar you ensure that you won’t forget it.
Touch
A kiss, a hug, some cuddles or simply holding hands are ways to express your love without saying the actual word “I love you”. Touch can give your partner a sense of acceptance and being cared for. In relationships where sex is no longer regular for any reason, physical touch can be important as a way of maintaining intimacy in the relationship. If your partner’s love language is physical touch then you will have to constantly provide them with some form of touch to make them feel loved.
Communication
Communication in a relationship goes beyond speaking to them on a daily. Being a good listener is a form of communication that you can use to express your love. Listening actively means paying attention, being interested and taking the time to understand what your partner is saying. Do not just listen passively, rather ask them thoughtful questions or make meaningful comments. This shows your partner that you are interested in what they are saying and you want them to feel heard. Stay off your phone or other gadgets that may distract you from listening attentively.
When talking to your partner don’t just ask routine questions like “how was your day?” instead ask them specific things about their day like what they did, what they ate, what they liked or not liked about the day. If they go to work ask them what they worked on, ask about their workmates, commute etc. Asking specific questions will help you connect more deeply with your partner. It shows that you care about what goes on in their life. Take time to send them texts checking on them throughout the day. It shows them that they are always on your mind.
Attention
Giving your partner enough attention shows them that you enjoy their company and want to be with them. It makes them feel loved and desired. Paying attention to your partner is a great way of growing your relationship and keeping the intimacy alive. I believe that paying attention is the greatest form of love because when you are attentive it is easier to express all other ways of love we have talked about. In these social media times, it is very easy to spend time scrolling through social media while in the company of your significant other. This may leave them feeling unseen or ignored, so take time to unplug from social media and just be in the moment with your partner.
Be their supporter
Supporting your partner in their goals and aspirations is a great way of expressing love. If you can help them accomplish their goals that will be really appreciated. Constantly showering them with words of encouragement also helps. By wanting them to achieve their goals it shows that you love them enough to put their happiness and achievements as your priority.
Being your partner’s supporter also means being there when they are feeling down or going through a tough time. Sometimes if you can’t fix it just providing a safe space for them to be vulnerable or vent is support enough. Show love by being there for them as they navigate the tough times.
Flirt
This is a light-hearted seduction with the intent of conveying love! Why not send a sexy text message or email while you are at work? This reminds the other person that you are thinking about him or her. It also increases the intensity of love so that you actually look forward to seeing each other when you return home from work.
Love letters
In a world where texts and emails now dominate the way we communicate, hand written notes or letters have become something special. Why not leave a love note for your loved one? This can be posted in the bathroom or kitchen before you leave to work. You could also leave a nice love poem under the pillow so that your partner finds it when they wake up or go to bed. It’s a great way of showing your partner that you care enough for them to take a moment to go through the hustle of writing a note for them.
Try this
Here are other ways you can use as a way to express your love without saying the words I love you.
Show appreciation
Compliment them
Help with household chores
Cook their favorite meal
Forgive the small stuff
Celebrate their achievements
Be kind
It’s the little things
Learn their love language
